Sunday, 5 November 2017


So many of us feel trapped in the chaotic world we know today. Dreamers focus on their taught idea of success; money, things & social status. When you really experience & fine tune those ideals you become to realise they aren't what you think. Money and people will not make you happy. Perhaps for a hour or a day but I can assure you not many will give you long life fulfillment.

My way of looking at 'minimalism' is a lifestyle to stop the madness, stop the unnecessary noise around us. The situations that divert our daily thinking into a negative place. It's the idea of being able to live with less, whether that's possessions or relationships. It's knowing what you need and discovering what will truly help you on the way to happiness.

It's essential these days to be a good example, to allow others to follow from your lead. Whether that's your family, children, friends or even just like-minded people needing guidance. My journey through minimalism has allowed me to connect closer to others, it's allowed me to embrace myself in my true, genuine form.

"People do things to hurt you and make you jealous when claiming they are trying to win your heart."

So little of us are actually thankful for what we have already. Having a home, family, friends, feeling safe in the place we live, waking up and being able to breathe. So many of us fast pace beings take the most simple things for granted.
Many of us have strong, supportive relationships which we take for granted each and every day. We become annoyed or 'pissed off' over the most petty of things. Whether it's through harsh conversation or social media. How many of us have stupid arguments and slam the door shut. Later regretting our choice of words as one day, they maybe the last. Blanking someone in the street or refusing to congratulate someone through jealousy, these are basic life choices which in turn, say so much about ourselves. We are reluctant to help people unless we receive something in return. We refuse to give up some of our time watching Netflix in order to help others. We waste days, weeks, months scrolling through social media and limiting conversation with our loved ones. The average person checks their phone over 100 times a day, searching for information, attention and answers. People do things to hurt you and make you jealous when claiming they are trying to win your heart.

Take a step back and reflect.  
Why not spend more time loving someone instead of making them jealous? They not spend more time visiting someone rather then text? Why not spend more time looking and speaking to the people around you, instead of focusing on the unrealistic, virtual world you find on your phone?

"We should be identified by what one does, not by what one owns."

Society has grown attached to worshiping consumption. Buying things to make us feel better, to have that 'fix' and to fill the void we are missing. Fast fashion has become an obsession, an addiction to buying the latest items. Being told by the media that we are now out of trend, being told what to buy and where to buy it. Having pieces that last a month rather than a year. Spending money on a quick fix that we soon dis-guard a short while later when they now have no value. The pressure of Black Friday to queue for hours in the cold in order to get the best deals. To max out our credit cards in order to buy masses of gifts and to attempt to keep up with the market. We believe we are receiving good deals, yet really, it's making us buy more. When we will ever have enough?
Our emotions are now connected to things rather than people. We find joy from the latest iPhone rather then conversation or a hug. We believe we are of value if we have things of value. We believe the clothes we wear identify our social status.
We should be identified by what one does, not by what one owns. People hurt us and apologise by buying us a 'thing' to say sorry rather than words. Until it happens again and the negative process continues.

It's learning to possess the things that give you value, things you need and things that help you through life. Being surrounded by things of purpose, in order to help you. Not to define your purpose. It's finding a balance between treats & essentials. Society has taught us to spend spend spend. Constantly working for our next pay cheque in order to fuel our habits. Perhaps if we really take a look at our spending we can save. We have to get rid of items, experiences that no longer serve us or give us meaning.

Wherever you are on your journey it's never too late to review. Gradually clear your wardrobe, social list, negative relationships or surroundings in order to give us a more fulfilled life. To choose a life that's good for you and others around you. Finding happiness from within, not through others or things. Each day revise your choices and ask yourself, is this giving me or anyone purpose? Does this hold meaning? Is this a true reflection of who I am? If you change your choices, you change your social attractions. If you do good, you attract good people. Clearing unnecessary things or people from your life allows you focus and have more room in your mind for what truly matters.

Love people & use things. The opposite never works.

When you realise this life is yours and this is the only one you will have, when it's distant from 'hippy bs', when it really seeps into your bones, that's when everything changes.
Love people & use things. The opposite never works.



Tuesday, 31 October 2017


Florals are a psyche essential when dressing a home for a special occasion. They add a little lux and happiness to those dull days, we all have them. Floristry is something that's always been an interest and why not add 'another string to my bow' when the opportunity presents itself. I'm a believer in everything happens for a reason and this was something not to be missed.

As a Halloween treat we gathered for a pumpkin flower arrangement lesson. Ideas like this are always such a good investment of your time and money. Not only did I learn a lot (although I've forgotten so many Latin flower names) but I also had such a lovely time doing it! For any special occaision or bouquet I buy I always make them up myself. I think it comes naturally as a creative but I can't stand some of the bunches they make up. I like a mix of texture, shape & also of course in-keeping with my aesthetic. Prosecco, good friends & beautiful flowers, what more could you want?

It's pretty obvious that I didn't opt for the typical Autumnal/Halloween style colour palette but ay, it's not within my style. The Psyche Style is a focus of many neutrals colours to adapt and wear all year round. I'll get round to adding more colour at some point I promise.... 

 Thoughts when arranging flowers reminded me of those we go through when arranging our personal styles or homes. There's always a focal point, in this case it was the white rose. A white rose is my most favourite flower which symbolizes purity, same aesthetic in homes now too, the more white the better. The leaves are added around the edges and the top, scattered randomly. This mixes in lovely with the whistles for a wild, unpredictable look. It's knowing how to get a balance between plan/strategy and natural. Other coloured flowers are used to balance, this is something to do by eye.

Flower arrangement is something that will always be different between person to person. Again like style and taste. It was interesting to see the outcomes, which were so different despite each being open to using the same flowers. All beautiful in their own way.

The Psyche Style flower arranging style tips:

- Plan your point of focus (main beautiful flower)
- Gather enough leaves, wild flowers to add depth and bulk to the desig. Scatter these roughly
- Opt for a range of different leaves, textures and colours when bunching together foliage
- Plan your colour palette and know your desired style
- Don't be afraid to try new ideas, if they don't work you can always take them out
- Choose smaller beautiful pieces to scatter
- Choose pieces of a similar colour palette and balance the colours across the bouquet
- Add height towards the back, it doesn't need to be even
- Plan the eyes journey to cover all aspects of the bouquet. You should be able to plan a journey for a frog to jump from level to level

Never let your skills limit you. All these are relevant to flower arranging however, many of us also use these when creating our key style. Especially within interior design.
I'd highly recommend courses/sessions like these. They're so much fun, you learn so much and have a giggle whilst doing it. We've signed up for the Christmas one which I'm so excited for. Christmas is my favourite time of year.

Happy Halloween! :)



Saturday, 28 October 2017


We've all had those moments scrolling through Instagram wishing we had the luxury designer pieces owned by others. We've all said "well, if only I had as much money as them" or "I'll never own that, I can only afford High Street". Well, let me tell you, you CAN. Being wise about how you spend your money will allow you to buy the things you really desire.

Buy the best quality you can afford. No matter how much your salary may be, sit down and work out how much you spend on a monthly basis. Obvs, the 'boring' billing etc are a priority so don't go getting yourselves into trouble. Decide how much (realistically) you have to spend on yourself/treats each month. Instead of spending a few 100's on High Street, just think about one thing you really need. I mean need and not just want, that you can take from season to season and still have in 5+ years time. Set yourself a goal to buy one core, wardrobe essential each month. Not only are you opening up your dreamy eyes to reality you are also pushing yourself to grasp the things you desire to have. 

Work out what you need. Yes, I'm saying it again - Need, not just want. Think about things you use day-to-day, season-to-season. Maybe something that's becoming a bit worn which needs an upgrade. Things that aren't just trend based, things that are timeless classics. For example, a well-made black handbag to use from day to night, a warm, snuggly winter coat, or even black leather boots to wear day in day out during winter. Your next purchases need to fit in with your wardrobe essentials, pieces that will be timeless and long lasting, especially if you are stretching your budget for them.

It's also great to take advice from others, perhaps other bloggers when trying to decide what to buy. Be careful for 'ads' or 'sponsored' posts as they aren't always truthful.  If you're seeking advice from others and you're doubting your purchase then don't take the pludge. Only buy expensive pieces you are 100% sure of, no questions asked.

Make sacrifices. Whilst you're working out your budget & planning your core wardrobe essentials, take a look at things you perhaps 'waste' your money on each month. These could be fast fashion pieces or nail varnishes you don't actually need. Perhaps you've purchased another red lipstick yet you already have 50 at home (I was guilty of this). Maybe you've spent so much on buying Celebrity lip kits to realise they aren't actually as good as you thought. Always take a step back and think, do I really need this? Perhaps you've been to Starbucks four times that week so do you really need to go a fifth time?

Start slow & small. Before splurging out on a £4,000 Chanel bag maybe see if there is a 'smaller' designer brand you love too. Designers such a; AllSaints, DKNY, Michael Kors (and so on) offer well designed pieces at a fraction of the cost. The White Company offer beautiful home ware and fashion pieces, again timeless and amazing quality. Slowly, each month you will begin to collect beautiful quality pieces and it will be hard to look back on the High Street. 

Opt for outlets. Outlets such as Bicester Village are amazing places to start when buying designer. They offer a huge range of low end and high end designer brands. All with amazing prices and offers. It's a beautiful day out and so inspirational to surround yourself with luxury designers. It really gives you an amazing feeling when being surrounded by so much luxury (well for me anyway). Its the same feeling I get when walking into Harrods, especially at Christmas.
Signing up to the mailing list is always a good idea to keep on track of when the next big sales are. 

Websites such as Vestiaire Collective are also another great option, the updates also go straight to your email so don't worry, not too much work is involved. You can set reminders for the app to let you know when your desired item has come into stock. They also sell pre-loved which could be more manageable price-wise, depending on the brand.

A DKNY bag was my Bicester Village purchase this month. I'd had my eye on it for a while and decided to take the pludge. I said to myself, if it was still available when I next go then it's a sign and I need to buy it. Next thing I know, I'm at the till getting a new one. I've loved DKNY for a number of years now, especially since Donna Karan has left the brand, I wasn't too keen on her taste. DKNY now has a new look and new story, something to be admired and fits my aesthetic/style perfectly.
I dream of one day owning a Chanel however I'm taking my own advice and starting off small.

Here are the best ways to shop designer 'in a nut shell':

-  Know & refine your style
- Make a list of key pieces you need to carry you from each season & each year
- Invest in the timeless classics
- Know where to shop and always look for discounts
- Sign upto mailing lists to keep in know the about when the best sales are
- Follow advice from others however never let them influence your style
- Start slow and start small
- Save
- Make sure you can afford the pieces you buy, debt is not worth it
- Think about it for a while, don't just impulse buy

If you have any tips on buying into Designer then please let them in the comments below :)


Photographs taken by The Psyche Style at Bicester Village Outlet


Sunday, 22 October 2017


I've kept my face hidden from the lens ever since The Psyche Style was created. Society has taught us to compare, do better, be better. Well, let me tell you, comparison is where we've been cheated. I've sat and compared myself to others for years, I could write a list 'as long as my arm' detailing all the things I would change about my appearance. I've wasted so much time worrying about things I can't change. Generations younger then the baby boomers have become obsessed with selfies and social media likes, myself included.

Us wandering millennials are now fighting back against those social labels. Forever becoming more in tune with ourselves and the core values of life. I'm here to share my experiences and to also help inspire those who may need guidance. 

Influencers such as Lydia Millen & I AM CHOUQUETTE have pulled me out of very dark days, they have no idea. They have a way of completely capturing my attention and my focus. I wish to thank them for showing me what is possible, for showing me who I am and what I am also capable of. For me to gain the courage to finally share what I'm so passionate about. To add my new positive outlook to the lives of others and to help them through struggles (of course staying true to my love for fashion along the way). I wish thank them for giving me the inspiration and motivation on those days where I've not even wanted to get out of bed. I've always been one of those who put others first, done things to benefit others despite not caring for myself. Now I've learnt to love myself and to also share so much love and support to others, it's time for change. 

Reflecting on life and my mindset has made me want more, it's made me realise there is more of life. I've used all my negative experiences to channel my hopes and dreams, and to find the core of who I am. I want to be able to open up and have real talk. To close the bridge between social fake and social fact. I don't want any pitty parties. For me, sharing thoughts and experiences has actually enabled me to connect with others and discover other like-minded dreamers I can evolve with. I want to create a space to establish not only core wardrobe essentials but also core life essentials.

The most valuable lesson you can learn is to appreciate yourself, you are you and that is your power.

I'm here to share my stories, support, style, advice & love to all who are willing to join me. I am The Psyche Style and this is my journey...


Wednesday, 11 October 2017


How many times do we say "I would do that but...." or "I can't do that because..." Well, let me tell you right now, YOU CAN. The power of self belief is something most of us hopeful 90's dreamers are finally waking up to. Why did it take so long though?

Social Media constantly attacks us like a mozzy, it just won't go away unless you get rid of it yourself. It keeps coming back like a boomerang. The key to your heart of happiness is knowing what to focus on and what to ignore. Social Media can be a blessing but also a curse. Fill your feed with your influencers, people who are going to encourage you and not bring you down.
Anyway, let's cut to the chase. I know how our generations have very limited attention spans whilst also having ants in their pants. 

"I AM" can be so powerful, it can instantly lift your mood and make you feel like you're some invincible superhero and who doesn't want that? 
The more you strengthen the connection between your conscious & subconscious mind the more resilient you will be when those 'mozzy' situations come to bite you. There are a few easy steps you can do each day to help keep you on track; setting reminders on your phone, using inspirational quotes as your phone or desktop pictures or even write them in a journal before bed.
The more you say them and believe them the more you will concur.

Here are a few examples to get you started:
- I am successful
- I am changing lives for the better
- I am great at my work
- I am so passionate about my industry
- I am so happy that I have succeeded
- I am living my dream
- I am living to my full potential
- I am traveling the world

The idea is to live as if you already have the thing you so deeply desire. Our generation is taught to dream and to think big, think outside the box. Well, those hopes won't happen unless you actually believe it. You need to believe as if you already have it, imagine how you would feel if it was yours and tell yourself that it is yours. It's as simple as that, then watch those things you so desire manifest into your life.
If any part of you is thinking 'what a load of ****' or 'I don't actually believe I can do this' it won't happen. Believe in yourself & trust that you have the ability to make those dreams come true.

If you're still not convinced, just watch this YouTube video here. You're welcome.

Trust the process and hey, don't knock it until you've tried it...

Wednesday, 27 September 2017


Adventure has become somewhat of an essential for sub-cultural millennial’s. This is not something to be made into a competition, I see you.. Spreading our wings and seaching for wifi hot-spots is now the ‘norm’. A weekend amongst the map of canals was not one to waste.

The first task was to navigate the Italian tube, but on water featuring the smell of Morrisons fish counter. I joke, the smell really wasn’t that awful. I had pretty much met most of the world within stepping onto the canal boat. Seats filled with Italians, French, Spanish and even Chinese. Watching the varieties of cultures is something that I’ve always found so fasincating. (Believe me, I have a certificate for Chinese cultural training). Of course once we had blindly found the hotel food was my first thought, naturally. Small pockets of bakeries were dotted around every lane, scents of ‘proper’ coffee and hand-baked carbs. Not ideal if you’re a GF foodie like me, but I took one for the team (you’re welcome).

Ciao, Ciao Bella… Ciao. How many times do you walk down the streets in the UK and not say hi to a single soul? Always. The European culture seem to have communication down to a fine art. Oh, and the architecture. It’s incredible to be on land where people appreciate creativity and art. Every street had designs of history which were untouched and blessed by nature. Systems were a memory of the past, but they worked. My map-reading was not at it's finest level but that's what made the adventure. Each day waking at the shine of Italian sun through the windows, eagerly getting ready for days filled with thousands of steps and photography snaps.

Venice is the city of beauty, refined style, and yes love... wait for the eye-roll. Candle lit tables gathered with love connections. Although, romance makes the trip that little bit sweeter. Who can resist a bunch of red roses and a stunning view? I know I can't...

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